Instead of setting goals, I’ve been accomplishing structure.

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On January 1st of this year, I took an important note from at least a handful of folks on my social media feeds and decided that I would not begin 2021 with lofty goals over which I had no control.

I’ve always considered myself ambitious — when left without structure…


To Love in the Time of COVID-19 and the Online Spaces in Which We Now Reside

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Minutes ago, I watched one of my older cousins marry his funny, bright-spirited girlfriend in a sparkling gold and navy courthouse, streamed over Facebook Live.

The video that will live on the platform for…


Ask: Do I Need a “Coach” or a Therapist?

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“I think something here is rubbing against one of your values in an uncomfortable way. Let’s look at your exercise and see if we can pinpoint what it is.”

A year and a handful of months ago, I would have been…


Life Did Not Flash before My Eyes

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I do not believe a single story where the lead’s life flashes before her eyes moments before death. Not anymore.

A handful of friends and I took off to the Outer Banks for a weekend-long party in the middle of the school semester…


Carley,

I love this short piece! I've gotten lazy about keeping a notebook since finishing school, but as I've really tried making personal essays more of a habit, I think this will be some writing to which I'll return again and again! I use a Rocketbook personally, with the colorful pens. I can store my thoughts digitally really easily this way if I want, and it's thin enough to fit everywhere!

Thanks for this,

Jill


“Still, Life” is a short film that makes the mundane monumental

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This afternoon, only mildly caffeinated and on the brink of exhaustion from the ever-relatable screen time dilemma, one of my best friends sent me a text:

Since you are my film friend, I wanted to share this with you…it’s just so good

An attached link hosted by The Bitter Southerner


It may not seem like posting your thoughts online can make a difference, but the effects of this habit may surprise you

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Back in April of this year, I published a short article about five of the things adopting and raising a feral dog (Toph) taught me about life as a caregiver and recipient of unconditional love. That story hasn’t gained a lot of traction, and I wrote it thinking I’d look…


When you’re someone with boobs or a butt, there is no guidance.

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I can recall being told my shirt was too low cut for choir practice by one on my peers in high school. …


We were still in the beginning of this thing. What did you discover?

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In July of 2020, I published my book of positive, celebratory LGBTQ narratives. Amidst the chaos of mis-and-disinformation surrounding COVID-19, I struggled to convince myself that this community-centering work mattered.

A year ago I had no idea…

Jill Fredenburg

Author of LGBTQ+ Revolution 2.0 & occasional YouTube content creator 🏳️‍🌈 https://linktr.ee/JillFredenburg

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