How Would You Like to Speak to Yourself?

My biggest takeaways from the last year of therapy.

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Lately, I’ve gotten better at recognizing and minimizing negative self-talk. I still catch myself frustrated at my appearance, putting off my own social media marketing out of fear of not being enough, and generally remembering that mortifying thing that happened in middle-school that I’m sure all my friends think about on a daily basis (as if I remember any of the dumb stuff they did). The frequency and length of these harrowing moments, however, have lessened.

Why? Therapy, mostly. The biggest takeaway I have from my experiences chatting with a professional about my personal traumas, big and small, is to question the assumptions I make about myself:

Who told you that?

Why isn’t this work enough?

and perhaps most importantly,

Is this how you want to talk to yourself?



Jill Fredenburg

Author of LGBTQ+ Revolution 2.0 & occasional YouTube content creator 🏳️‍🌈